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How Some Ladies Are Destroying Their Marriage Without Knowing

07 Jan

How some Ladies are destroying their
Marriage without knowing
If you are one of those ladies who no
longer respect people who are older
than you because of the things you see
in social media then you can’t be my
friend; I will keep you at bay. Respect
for ones elders is one of the cardinal
principles I learn from my parents and I
live by that. Many marriages are failing
today because women want to be equal
with men blindly, hence there is no
peace on many homes.
Read this interesting eye-opener from a
married woman…
When I got married, I was amazed at
the instant, overwhelming sense of
responsibility I felt to love and care for
my husband. Suddenly, a huge part of
someone else’s well-being and
happiness was largely affected by my
choices and actions.
Women, we need to be careful about
how we are caring for our husbands and
marriages. Don’t let the small stuff ruin
the things that will bring you the
greatest happiness in life.
Here are just a few ways you might be
unknowingly destroying your husband
and killing your marriage.
1. Living outside of what you can afford
A wise old woman from my church
congregation once advised: “The best
thing you can do as a wife is to live
within your husband’s means.”
Wives, show sincere appreciation and
respect to your husband by carefully
following a budget and making the most
of what you have. Be wise about your
finances.
Constantly complaining about not
having enough to fulfill your lavish
desires or racking up astronomical
amounts of debt for yourself and your
husband is a poor way of saying “thank
you” to a faithful spouse who works
hard every day to provide for the
family.
Yes, you may not have enough to buy
that deigner shoes or bag you’ve had
your eyes on recently, but your husband
will love and appreciate the fact that
you honor him and are grateful for what
he provides.
2. Constant negativity
You hate your hair, the messes around
the house, the neighbor across the
street, your dumb co-worker, the old
dishwasher, and everything in between.
As soon as your husband walks through
the door, you launch into action and
dump every negative and angry thought
that’s crossed your mind.
Can you imagine having to carry that
burden? Negativity is draining. Men like
to fix things, and constantly being
hounded with complaints makes it
difficult for him to help solve your
pains.
If there is one thing I’ve learned from
marriage is that a good man wants you
to be happy, and if he can’t help you do
that, it makes him unhappy.
3. Putting everything else first
When your children, mom, best friends,
talents, or career in front of your
husband, you send a clear message to
him that he is unimportant. Imagine
having that message sent to you every
day for many years. What would that do
to your self esteem?
Put your husband first! Although it
sometimes seems counter-intuitive and
counterproductive, I think you’d be
amazed to find that it’s often the key to
the greatest happiness in marriage. So
many couples get divorced these days,
because of neglect and to a large extent
disrespect.
If you choose to put him first, you will
find a lot of joy.
4. Withholding physical affection
Men crave and need physical affection
with their wives. When you constantly
decline intimacy, it wears on them. Sex
should not be used as a tool to control
your spouse; it should be viewed as a
sacred tool to draw you closer to one
another and to God.
It is a great blessing to be wanted and
needed by a loving, romantic husband
who wants to share something so
beautiful and important with you — and
you only. Even though you might not
always be in the mood, it’s worth it to
give in (unless you are sick) and spend
that time bonding.
5. Not speaking his language
Don’t waste your time giving subtle
hints that he won’t understand: Speak
plainly to him. Be honest about your
feelings, and don’t bottle things up until
you burst. If he asks you what’s wrong,
don’t respond with “nothing” and then
expect him to read your mind. Be open
to your man and grow your marriage.

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Posted by on January 7, 2016 in Uncategorized

 

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