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10 Painfully Obvious Truths Everyone Forgets Too Soon.

06 Feb

You know how you can hear something
a hundred times in a hundred different
ways before it finally gets through to
you? The ten truths listed below fall
firmly into that category – life lessons
that many of us likely learned years ago,
and have been reminded of ever since,
but for whatever reason, haven’t fully
grasped.
This, my friends, is my attempt at
helping all of us, myself included, “get
it” and “remember it” once and for all…
1. The average human life is relatively
short.
We know deep down that life is short,
and that death will happen to all of us
eventually, and yet we are infinitely
surprised when it happens to someone
we know. It’s like walking up a flight of
stairs with a distracted mind, and
misjudging the final step. You expected
there to be one more stair than there
is, and so you find yourself off balance
for a moment, before your mind shifts
back to the present moment and how
the world really is.
LIVE your life TODAY! Don’t ignore
death, but don’t be afraid of it either.
Be afraid of a life you never lived
because you were too afraid to take
action. Death is not the greatest loss in
life. The greatest loss is what dies inside
you while you’re still alive. Be bold. Be
courageous. Be scared to death, and
then take the next step anyway.
2. You will only ever live the life you
create for yourself.
Your life is yours alone. Others can try
to persuade you, but they can’t decide
for you. They can walk with you, but
not in your shoes. So make sure the
path you decide to walk aligns with your
own intuition and desires, and don’t be
scared to switch paths or pave a new
one when it makes sense.
Remember, it’s always better to be at
the bottom of the ladder you want to
climb than the top of the one you
don’t. Be productive and patient. And
realize that patience is not about
waiting, but the ability to keep a good
attitude while working hard for what
you believe in. This is your life, and it is
made up entirely of your choices. May
your actions speak louder than your
words. May your life preach louder than
your lips. May your success be your
noise in the end.
And if life only teaches you one thing,
let it be that taking a passionate leap is
always worth it. Even if you have no
idea where you’re going to land, be
brave enough to step up to the edge of
the unknown, and listen to your heart.
3. Being busy does NOT mean being
productive.
Busyness isn’t a virtue, nor is it
something to respect. Though we all
have seasons of crazy schedules, very
few of us have a legitimate need to be
busy ALL the time. We simply don’t
know how to live within our means,
prioritize properly, and say no when we
should.
Being busy rarely equates to
productivity these days. Just take a
quick look around. Busy people
outnumber productive people by a wide
margin. Busy people are rushing all over
the place, and running late half of the
time. They’re heading to work,
conferences, meetings, social
engagements, etc. They barely have
enough free time for family get-
togethers and they rarely get enough
sleep. Yet, emails are shooting out of
their smart phones like machine gun
bullets, and their day planners are
jammed to the brim with obligations.
Their busy schedule gives them an
elevated sense of importance. But it’s
all an illusion. They’re like hamsters
running on a wheel.
Though being busy can make us feel
more alive than anything else for a
moment, the sensation is not
sustainable long term. We will
inevitably, whether tomorrow or on our
deathbed, come to wish that we spent
less time in the buzz of busyness and
more time actually living a purposeful
life.
4. Some kind of failure always occurs
before success.
Most mistakes are unavoidable. Learn
to forgive yourself. It’s not a problem to
make them. It’s only a problem if you
never learn from them.
If you’re too afraid of failure, you can’t
possibly do what needs to be done to be
successful. The solution to this problem
is making friends with failure. You want
to know the difference between a
master and a beginner? The master has
failed more times than the beginner has
even tried. Behind every great piece of
art is a thousand failed attempts to
make it, but these attempts are simply
never shown to us.
Bottom line: Just because it’s not
happening now, doesn’t mean it never
will. Sometimes things have to go very
wrong before they can be right.
5. Thinking and doing are two very
different things.
Success never comes to look for you
while you wait around thinking about it.
You are what you do, not what you say
you’ll do. Knowledge is basically useless
without action. Good things don’t come
to those who wait; they come to those
who work on meaningful goals. Ask
yourself what’s really important and
then have the courage to build your life
around your answer.
And remember, if you wait until you
feel 100% ready to begin, you’ll likely
be waiting the rest of your life.
6. You don’t have to wait for an apology
to forgive.
Life gets much easier when you learn to
accept all the apologies you never got.
The key is to be thankful for every
experience – positive or negative. It’s
taking a step back and saying, “ Thank
you for the lesson .” It’s realizing that
grudges from the past are a perfect
waste of today’s happiness, and that
holding one is like letting unwanted
company live rent free in your head.
Forgiveness is a promise – one you want
to keep. When you forgive someone
you are making a promise not to hold
the unchangeable past against your
present self. It has nothing to do with
freeing a criminal of his or her crime,
and everything to do with freeing
yourself of the burden of being an
eternal victim.
7. Some people are simply the wrong
match for you.
You will only ever be as great as the
people you surround yourself with, so
be brave enough to let go of those who
keep bringing you down. You shouldn’t
force connections with people who
constantly make you feel less than
amazing.
If someone makes you feel
uncomfortable and insecure every time
you’re with them, for whatever reason,
they’re probably not close friend
material. If they make you feel like you
can’t be yourself, or if they make you
“less than” in any way, don’t pursue a
connection with them. If you feel
emotionally drained after hanging out
with them or get a small hit of anxiety
when you are reminded of them, listen
to your intuition. There are so many
“right people” for you, who energize
you and inspire you to be your best self.
It makes no sense to force it with
people who are the wrong match for
you.
8. It’s not other people’s job to love
you; it’s yours.
It’s important to be nice to others, but
it’s even more important to be nice to
yourself. You really have to love
yourself to get anything done in this
world. So make sure you don’t start
seeing yourself through the eyes of
those who don’t value you. Know your
worth, even if they don’t.
Today, let someone love you just the
way you are – as flawed as you might
be, as unattractive as you sometimes
feel, and as incomplete as you think you
are. Yes, let someone love you despite
all of this, and let that someone be
YOU.
9. What you own is not who YOU are.
Stuff really is just stuff, and it has
absolutely no bearing on who you are as
a person. Most of us can make do with
much less than we think we need.
That’s a valuable reminder, especially in
a hugely consumer-driven culture that
focuses more on material things than
meaningful connections and
experiences.
You have to create your own culture.
Don’t watch TV, don’t read every
fashion magazine, and don’t consume
too much of the evening news. Find the
strength to fill your time with
meaningful experiences. The space and
time you are occupying at this very
moment is LIFE, and if you’re worrying
about Kim Kardashian or Lebron James
or some other famous face, then you
are disempowered. You’re giving your
life away to marketing and media
trickery, which is created by big
companies to ultimately motivate you
to want to dress a certain way, look a
certain way, and be a certain way. This is
tragic, this kind of thinking. It’s all just
Hollywood brainwashing. What is real is
YOU and your friends and your family,
your loves, your highs, your hopes, your
plans, your fears, etc.
Too often we’re told that we’re not
important, we’re just peripheral to what
is. “Get a degree, get a job, get a car,
get a house, and keep on getting.” And
it’s sad, because someday you’ll wake
up and realize you’ve been tricked. And
all you’ll want then is to reclaim your
mind by getting it out of the hands of
the brainwashers who want to turn you
into a drone that buys everything that
isn’t needed to impress everyone that
isn’t important.
10. Everything changes, every second.
Embrace change and realize it happens
for a reason. It won’t always be obvious
at first, but in the end it will be worth
it.
What you have today may become what
you had by tomorrow. You never know.
Things change, often spontaneously.
People and circumstances come and go.
Life doesn’t stop for anybody. It moves
rapidly and rushes from calm to chaos in
a matter of seconds, and happens like
this to people every day. It’s likely
happening to someone nearby right
now.
Sometimes the shortest split second in
time changes the direction of our lives.
A seemingly innocuous decision rattles
our whole world like a meteorite
striking Earth. Entire lives have been
swiveled and flipped upside down, for
better or worse, on the strength of an
unpredictable event. And these events
are always happening.
However good or bad a situation is now,
it will change. That’s the one thing you
can count on. So when life is good,
enjoy it. Don’t go looking for something
better every second. Happiness never
comes to those who don’t appreciate
what they have while they have it.

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